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Notions, ideas, and random thoughts that I’m processing – stuff “out of my mind”

keith.drury@indwes.edu

Like many things I start I maintain them for a while then tire of them. I’ve quit blogging undeveloped thoughts now and merely toss them into a box near my desk—I now have enough ideas to write a column every day until I am 100 years old—so I’ll probably not write them all ;-)

But the following is an example of what I did when I did this (before moving on to other things)

“Finding the husband God has for me.”

The following are the “dating doctrines” many of my female students hold sacred. OK grown-ups…are these accurate? Are they myths? What would you say?

1. There is one single male somewhere on this planet for me that I must “find.”

2. When I find that one husband for me and marry him I will be the happiest in marriage.

3. God arranges marriages and has picked who I ought to marry—my job to “wait” for God trusting Him to “bring” this husband to me in His perfect timing. Until then I will simply wait.

4. God is intensely interested in my dating life and I ought to make this a chief concern of mine in prayer.

5. My decision about whom I will marry is mine alone guided by God alone.

6. I’m not going to be in a hurry while I’m in college because the chances of meeting an ideal Christian man as just as good in my later 20’s as they are now.

1. Once I get this man “I will know for sure” I should marry him by the feeling of love in my heart.

2. When that man falls for me he will love me so much he will never again even notice other women.

I recognize most of these dating doctrines are merely “little girl thinking” and thus “innocent error” like believing in Santa Claus. However a few, if they are wrong, can have more serious consequences—in developing a God-concept and in establishing expectations for marriage. So I toss out this challenge to older students, woman and men already married—what would you say to my women students who hold these doctrines?

Tell me and I’ll post your responses (I won’t put your name).

(I’ll address male dating doctrines later—I’m starting a list now).

RESPONSES from wise older folk:

1. There is one single male somewhere on this planet for me that I must “find.”

2. When I find that one husband for me and marry him I will be the happiest in marriage.

3. God arranges marriages and has picked who I ought to marry—my job to “wait” for God trusting Him to “bring” this husband to me in His perfect timing. Until then I will simply wait.

4. God is intensely interested in my dating life and I ought to make this a chief concern of mine in prayer.

5. My decision about whom I will marry is mine alone guided by God alone.

6. I’m not going to be in a hurry while I’m in college because the chances of meeting an ideal Christian man as just as good in my later 20’s as they are now.

7. Once I get this man “I will know for sure” I should marry him by the feeling of love in my heart.

8. When that man falls for me he will love me so much he will never again even notice other women.

This is what I’m thinking about now. I invite any helpful thought you might contribute to my thinking. Keith@DruryWriting.com