Faithfulness

Part Eight of “The Intangibles: They Make You or They Break You”

By David Drury

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Faithfulness may seem like a strange inclusion in the list of intangibles.  Certainly, there are fewer obscure nuances to faithfulness than many of the other intangibles.  Faithfulness is even listed as a Fruit of the Spirit, for goodness—also listed—sake.  How could faithfulness be an intangible quality we cannot observe on a resume?  Well, I suppose one sign of faithfulness is the length of tenure someone has at prior positions.  If someone changed jobs every 18 months for a 15 year period we might worry that they were flighty or uncommitted—indeed—unfaithful.  But it might equally be a case of someone being so skilled and effective that they kept getting promoted or offered jobs with a much greater platform and leadership capacity that matched them.  You just can’t fully see if someone is going to be a faithful team member by looking at their resume or interviewing them.

 

So, what is faithfulness in a team member anyway?  What sets apart those with faithfulness?  Let’s examine what happens when you are a faithful member of an organization.

 

When you are faithful:

 

A faithful worker is first of all someone you can trust to stay the course.  Faithful leaders have the opposite dynamic—their people sense they can give it their all and contribute to the final destination with significance.  Those that work with a faithful person benefit from the consistency they provide.  Those that work for them have the sense that the direction they set will be firm.  A faithful and consistent peer leader is so appreciated by the team.  And faithfulness in someone working for you is like gold: better a faithful leader who will consistently deliver than one that is all over the map, with as many failures and balls-dropped as successes and game-winning shots.

 

When you aren’t faithful:

 

One well-known Chinese Proverb gives some good advice: “Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.”  When you entrust something to someone and they are unfaithful with it your trust for them diminishes greatly.  Many people react the same way to a leader as they do a lover: unfaithfulness is unforgivable.  Unfaithful leaders often adopt the latest fad or change course mid-stream.  Their decisions sift beneath you like walking on a sand dune.  Many leaders change course so often that their followers get “change-weary” and begin to hold new direction at arm’s length, remembering how much they put into the prior direction and now it is pulled out from under them.  Few things are more frustrating than a peer, leader or follower who isn’t doing enough of the heavy lifting—this makes you feel like more of the weight of the piano is ending up in your hands.  When you aren’t faithful it erodes nearly all your other good qualities.

 

How to become faithful:

 

Well, faithfulness may be one of the most “spiritual” of the intangibles.  That’s why Mother Theresa said, “I do not pray for success, I ask for faithfulness.”  Perhaps we should just pray to be more faithful and receive this fruit of the spirit.  However, we should also work towards… perhaps you’ve already been given enough to be faithful and you just need to work at it in these ways:

-          Look back at the things you started over the last 5 years. How many of them have you completed?  How often do you finish well?  Evaluate your own faithfulness.

-          Set out to finish old projects before starting new ones.

-          Look to help others finish their goals before setting new ones for yourself—become a “faithfulness-provider” for your organization.  Be a follow-through resource.

-          Instead of thinking of new vision or direction, get your old charts and slogans out—think of a way to re-cast the vision for those items, rather than dreaming up new ones.

-          Repeat your goals to yourself weekly or monthly, type them out or write them out on a legal pad often to remind you of your initial plan.

-          Set evaluation meetings with your team or supervisor where you examine if you’ve been faithful to what you’ve said you were going to do.

 

How to spot & reward someone who is faithful:

 

As a leader of an organization or a supervisor of a team you already know how much faithfulness counts and have likely been burned by a shooting star follower who looked great for a time but flamed out too often.  As Theodore Roosevelt said, “It is better to be faithful than famous.”  Be sure to mirror that truth in who you honor in your team.  Take time to thank and give team awards to those faithful ‘behind the scene’s’ leaders and workers on your team—that raises the value of faithfulness in your organization.  Also notice not only the big successes or huge growth areas and events… but also notice those who have just gradually and faithfully grown their area over a year or two’s time.  Pick a surprise moment to show the whole team this growth on a graph and emphasize the faithful work by the team member who led it.  Every team should also reward longevity as well—this isn’t just a gold watch at retirement… it’s much more about marking milestones of achievement.  Don’t just make this about years of service… reward how long someone has run a particular program or provided a particular service.  Sometimes people just stick around in an organization for decades and don’t get much done.  Reward those who have consistently and faithfully improved something for years.  Also take time to celebrate when someone has faithfully ended or orchestrated a “sunset” for a program.  Celebrate the years of faithful leadership and service that enabled that area to work as it has… then allow it to end beautifully just like a sunset.  Then the team is ready for the next place of faithful leadership and service.

 

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This is part eight of The Intangibles.  Come back for more on each intangible.  Click here for the introduction to this series.

 

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